Why Your Teen Reacts Instead of Responding (And How to Help)
Your teen sends an angry text, then regrets it. They lash out in arguments, shutting down when they feel overwhelmed.
Conflict feels impossible—but it doesn’t have to. The DBT skill THINK helps teens pause before reacting, leading to healthier conversations.
The DBT Skill That Helps Teens Navigate Conflict
THINK teaches teens how to slow down and process their emotions before responding.
Think – Take a moment before reacting.
Have Empathy – Consider the other person’s perspective.
Interpret Charitably – Assume the best intentions.
Notice Your Feelings – Check in with yourself before speaking.
Kindness First – Respond with respect.
How One Teen Learned to Pause Before Reacting
When Ava, 15, (mock client) had a disagreement with her best friend, she impulsively texted something hurtful. She instantly regretted it.
Using THINK, she learned to pause and reframe:
Old approach: “You’re the worst friend ever!”
New approach using THINK: “I felt hurt when you didn’t text me back. Can we talk about it?”
This small shift changed how she handled future conflicts.
Helping Your Teen Navigate Conflict With Confidence
With THINK, teens learn that slowing down before reacting leads to better outcomes.