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A “Finsta” (fake instagram account) is for posting photos of dogs and connecting with friends. Your teen’s “Real” Instagram account is reserved for…
“Hot pictures of myself.”
“Me and my boyfriend”
“Only the best version of myself but if no one likes it fast enough I’ll take it down.”
Social media is a STRESSOR and the struggle is REAL!
Our teens are immersed in putting their best face forward at the expense of real and genuine connections that would actually give them the self-esteem boost they want and need.
Use the following tips to guide your teen in creating genuine peer connections and improving their overall happiness social media style...
Use Social to BE Social
Instead of surfing the scroll, send messages, comment and engage on others posts to create a shared experience and look for ways to genuinely connect with others. This starts with a willingness to be authentically you and not some screen persona that’s aiming for likes and comments.
Use Comparisons to Find Your Personal Best Self
Instead of comparing yourself to others, compare yourself to yourself. Think of it as a before and after photo for a fitness ad. Where have you been and where are you now? What’s improved? How is your life better or different and what have you done to get to this point?
If They Have It, You Can Too
Jealousy can be used as a motivator when you reframe it. Instead of, “She has lots of followers and I don’t,” look for traits and lifestyles on social media that are a step or two beyond where you are currently. It gives you something to strive for without that feeling that it’s unfair because they have something that feels unattainable for you.
Focus on the Good
What you focus on expands. Instead of focusing on what you lack in your life, begin working on highlighting what’s good. It’s the most important www you’ll ever type: what went well. Share what’s working in your life, share what brings you joy. Use your social media as your gratitude journal to highlight the favorite parts of your life.
Follow People Who Inspire You
Who are some people you admire who inspire personal growth for you? Let others lift you up by following those who model a life of mindful joy and kindness so that you can do the same.
Have trouble with setting boundaries on screen time at home?
Check out our Teens, Screens and Sleep On-Demand Online Workshop for Parents. Help your teen set boundaries on social media and screen use while helping them sleep on a schedule.